I am one of four bridesmaids in a friend's wedding. Over the last two weeks, I have been given sporadic information about an upcoming bridal shower by the maid of honor. This past weekend, I received an invitation to the shower. Interestingly, the invitation noted that the maid of honor, mother of the bride and another bridesmaid were "hosting" the shower. Yesterday, I received an email from the maid of honor asking for assistance with the shower including a request to share in the cost of the event. Since I was not including in the planning and I was not included as a bridesmaid "hosting" the shower, I would think that I would not need to write a check for the event. If the shower would have been handled differently from the start, I would not have had a problem contributing my time and money; however, at this point, I think it is in poor taste to request money from a bridesmaid ommitted from the planning process and the shower invitation. I need some advice!! I don't want to be a jerk about it and I am not sure if I should even bring it up. Thanks for your help!!
Hi,
Touchy situation! I would politely say exactly what you wrote above. I thought it was tactful and not rude. I would simply say that being so close to the shower, you do not have time or the funds to fork over, but you should have asked sooner. Maybe offer to help with the bacherolette party so she knows you are on board with the planning process and willing to help.
Hope this helps!
Elizabeth
