My FH's mom divorced his step-dad of 15 yrs or so and has had a steady relationship of a year with her current boyfriend. I am more acceptable of him than my FH and since it is traditional for the groom to dance with the brides mom, I would also like to dance with his mom's boyfriend. He is 1000x's better to his mom than her ex was and he deserves to be recognized, rather they are married or not. He is also stepping up to the plate of being a grandpa to our two kids, which to me, means everything!
I just want him to included and honored the way he deserves.
Then by all means include him!!
This is you and your FH's day. Not the Ex's. He does deserve to be recognized because he is your honey's father though. You will come up with something wonderful I am sure.
We are dealing with divorced parents that are both remarried and have not spoken to each other in over 10 years. And the last time they did speak, it wasn't pretty. We are all walking on egg shells. Rehersal dinner should be interesting!!
My FH's mother was never married to his father, so it was just his step-father and it will be a cold day in h*ll before that man will ever be near us. The man is a pedaphile and is not coming near me and my children!
I am just wondering how to include the new boyfriend. I know if it was up to my FH he wouldn't even invite him.
The guy drinks a little too much but helps support my FH's mom and is not abusive so i do not see where it is my FH's business. I guess he needs to grow up a little and realize his mom is a big girl and can make her own decisions!
I for one will be including him and danicing with him and if my FH doesn't it than he doesn't have to go! j/k!
I am sure we will figure something out!
Thanks!
OH Boy!!
I get the picture on the step dad, and agree.
About the BF though...
Yes mom is a big girl and can make her own decisions. Your FH is a big boy as well his feelings on this matter should be respected as well. Not inviting the BF is going a little extreme, but do you really want to, for lack of a better term, throw it in his face. It is your day together and niether of you should have to worry about feeling the least bit uncomfortable.
I agree he should be included, especially since he is playing the grandpa role. But if it really makes your honey uncomfortable, maybe you could dance with his best man while he dances with your mom. His mom and BF are not married and that would be more than appropriate. Maybe you could recognize him during a toast or soemthing like that.
No matter what you do, this day is about you and your FH, not about who danced with who. Have a great wedding.
Thanks. Hopefully by the time we get married his feelings will change. I am not sure if is really the BF or his mom he really doesn't like. I know they have had their problems as well. I am just afraid that he is taking it out on the BF. We will just see what time developes!
